Complexity meets simplicity..
Am I open to a relationship? A question which had popped up a number of times this year. Perhaps. I am not really sure either. I think I am still rather apprehensive towards committment. Not that I am some mega flirt who delights in fooling around. I am just very much hesitant about having another person in my life - trying to understand each other and to make things work out. Of course it is great to have someone to share your troubles and woes with but the idea of having to accomodate another person, to have to place his priority alongside mine and perhaps at times having to compromise, does not sound very appealing. I guess I am a self-centerd person? lol. Not exactly. I just have not found the person I am willing to sacrifice part of my life for. haha. Moreover, at this age, I feel that my boyfriend will potentially become my husband. Then again, I can't visualise my husband as of now. To envision the characteristics I want my husband to have seems like a tedious chore. It has always been kind of randomly popped out when asked and these characteristics usually vary from time to time. And having been reminded that I am no longer young, it's about time I start listing them down - in black and white.
Apart from the fundamentals of having the same beliefs as me, he should (preferably) possess the following:
1. Patience (and in this sense I mean alot! with the crazy world I live in, he has to be really understanding)
2. Love for people (not in the flirt sense of love but compassion)
3. Confidence (not some egomaniac but he should be secure and firm)
4. Humor (must be of the same frequency and not some lameo)
5. Maturity (behaving and responding as the situation calls for it)
6. Spirit of excellence (putting his best in whatever he does)
7. Financial stability (having sufficient, definitely not in debts or living hand-to-mouth day by day)
8. Wisdom (able to advise but not judge)
9. Cheerful outlook (outgoing and sociable people are easier to get along with *.^)
10. Height and build (must be at least 1.7m and not too scawny not too fat)
Of course the list is not all encompassing. Ideally, they make a man a Man. My sister said I think too highly of myself but well quoting from my student, "You are going to live with this man for the rest of your life!"
