Complexity meets simplicity..
i am truly blessed to have students who appreciate me and never fail to think of me. ~.^ i wonder how many parents actually sit down and have a meal with their children's tutor? how many parents would actually get gifts for the tutor when they go for a holiday? not only that, the love and concern they shower upon me is more than i can ask for. indeed i am thankful for the favour of man God has given me.
love is not reliance just as solitude is not loneliness. it is a grey line separating the two, small wonder misunderstandings arise. people tend to confuse feelings of emotional attachment as feelings of affection. when two get too used to the company of each other, the bond they share start to create notions of fondness and warp their mind. such is the mystery of the human mind. of course this is not saying that love cannot stem from friendship, in fact more often than not, it does. the key is to be able to differentiate whether the feelings are truly that of adoration or merely those of familiarity. (sounds abit too idealistic and logical?) not that i am some love guru. but in my humble opinion, love is when you will give selflessly; when you will rather spend time with the person doing inconsequential things when you could have been using the same time to do something of importance; when you place the needs of the other priority over your own. definitely this may vary from individual to individual. each of us has different love lingo meaning as unique individuals, we have different ways of expressing love. according to Dr. Gary Chapman, everyone has 5 love languages through which they express love to others and receive love from others:
A - Acts of Service
this involves actions of kindness and love to our loved ones
P - Physical Touch
this includes hugs, pats and other actions of love
A - Affirmative Words
this involves praises, compliments and words of encouragement
R - Receiving Gifts
this is the more tangible aspect in which appreciation is expressed in terms of cards and rewards
T - Time Together
this involves spending quality time together
needless to say, these 5 are not mutually exclusive. instead, they co-exist. all of us sets a certain standard for each aspect. depending on the individual, age and character, a particular aspect may be ranked of higher importance but not the others.
take for example, myself. i consider myself a girl of high maintainence. my love lingo scores high in almost every aspect. in terms of giving love, i will express it through acts of service, giving small tokens and time together. on the other hand, receiving love demands more of physical touch like a pat on the head, affirmative words and time spent together. i guess i am very much a baby. lol. *.^
